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Mimi Borders's avatar

I feel this deeply. I always thought being a goal oriented person was a big advantage and it is but it also means I don’t often sit in the process I just chase the next good star. Thanks for this ❤️

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simi's avatar

So glad it resonated 🤍

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Tyra Banks's avatar

I am practicing this step by step and very much in the thick of it. It's been 6 days since being terminated from my job but over 6 months of being stuck and wanting to leave a job and lifestyle with no autonomy. I resonate with the need to make decisions and transform out of spite as you put it. I want to make more intentional moves that serve me. Cheers sis! Ode to not being stuck 🥂

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ghost's avatar

damn i really felt this, thank you for your beautiful words<3 The past few years, i've been so fixated on keeping it moving, on functioning and not giving up, that i completely shut down my feelings. I never let my wounds breathe.

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kyara nycole parker's avatar

thank you so much for this! i am currently sinking in the self improvement quicksand & the limbo of figuring out my masters degree and it’s very comforting knowing there’s other people who feel the same 🫶🏾

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ELLIS's avatar

✨beautifully written and resonates deeply✨ Thank You

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Victoria Brooklyn's avatar

Thank you for saying this out loud so eloquently.

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Grace Fell's avatar

went through this realization earlier this year and it felt earth shattering lol. i honestly think it’s a symptom of capitalist brainwashing: “don’t acknowledge the hard thing you went through, just keep going as you were so you can keep achieving” 🫠 thank you for sharing this, it means a lot!! ❤️‍🩹

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quixotica's avatar

I definitely feel invisible due to not just overachieving just because that is what my family expects of me. I’m okay with disappointing people, however it seems like when you aren’t doing things that people seem impressive they don’t care what you’re doing at all.

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quixotica's avatar

*deem impressive

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Courtney Bowden's avatar

Oooh I felt this. Thank you for this heartfelt post.

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Brittany Antoinette's avatar

Wow, Simi...

This was a read I never knew I needed. Thank you for helping us remember the importance of holding space to just feel things opposed to being in a constant pursuit of moving forward disguised as an avoidant escape.

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